Relationship Success Stories and Tips

Dating Advice: 4 Secrets to a Spectacular Relationship

2009-11-27T00:28:00.000-08:00

By dating editor Nicole Yorio for Redbook
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What do couples who describe their relationship as spectacular do differently than those who describe theirs as simply so-so? The differences are quite small, actually.

#1. Understand Each Other's Needs
"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.

#2. Show Him Some Love
Men whose partners give them affirmation -- those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved -- are twice as likely to describe themselves as happy in their relationship. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit!'" she says. "But men don't get that recognition." Can you imagine a passerby stopping your guy to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Not gonna happen -- which is why men rely on that attention from their mates. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.

#3. Take 10
A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. "I call this the 10-Minute Rule: Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything, except for responsibilities or chores," Orbuch says. Throw out Mom's old advice about how an air of mystery keeps the flame alive: Orbuch's research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners.

And knowing your partner intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer, Orbuch says. You can bond over why you think your dog is the smartest one on the block or which superpower you'd want most. You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.

#4. Focus on the Good
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction."
This doesn't mean that you can't feel -- or talk about -- anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your partnership into one that is truly great.

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8 Best Tips on Approaching a Woman

2009-10-29T12:33:00.000-07:00

Many men daily miss out on the best woman because they do not know how to approach them. Approaching women for a relationship is an art which if well mastered will mean you can talk to any woman without fear of being embarrassed. Here are tips that you would find helpful in approaching your dream woman.

Approach her in a non-threatening environment like the church, party, conference, etc where there are people. She might feel endangered if the environment is un-conducive e.g. at night and in a lonely place.
Walk up to her; and introduce yourself in the most gentle man and polite attitude you can. If you know anyone who knows her then the person can introduce you.
Compliment her. Look for something about her you can comment on immediately. Never go to a lady without compliments. It puts her in a relaxed mood. Compliment her dressing, make-up, shoe, hair, eyes, and voice, just anything. Be sincere and don't flatter her. Your compliment should be non-threatening.
Pick something she has on and talk about it. Women spend lots of money on wears and much more time on dress so that they can be complimented.
You should not make any instant hit. First gain her attention, familiarize yourself and set up another meeting where you can let the cat out of the bag. This must be after you have properly assessed the situation and the temperament of the lady.
Do not open up on every thing you know about her. The timing must be right.
If she is distracted by something or someone and stops listening, make the conversation short but get a second appointment.
If you are near a restaurant, you can ask her out for a drink, otherwise leave that for your next meeting.

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Christian Dating - Tips to Help Christian Singles Check Their Partner's Sexual Compatibility

2009-10-29T12:10:00.000-07:00

Sexual incompatibility is a major reason for several divorces. This makes it important that you have an idea of your partner's sexual disposition ever before you get married. The best way would have been to experience sex physically with him or her but Christian faith forbids sex before marriage. Does it therefore mean you can not find out about your partner's sexual tempo? You can without going to the bed with him or her. That is what a good Christian date would do for you. Compatibility with your spouse will surely help your marriage. Here are some helpful tips which are based mainly on questions you should find their answers;

Is he/she easily attracted to the opposite sex?
Do little things about the opposite sex excite him/her?
Does he/she react to touch by the opposite sex?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then the fellow most probably is sexually hot.

As the courtship progresses, you can introduce sexuality into your discussion. This you must do with great caution so that you don't end up committing the sin. You could ask what he/she thinks of a man who demands sex from his wife five times a day. The response you get would give you an insight into your partner's sexual feelings.

Above all, pray for God's guidance in choosing a spouse. He alone can match you perfectly. It is not beyond His power to give you someone of a kind sexual disposition as you. With that, you will not have the problem of compatibility in your marriage. That means that one potential cause of divorce has been eliminated from your relationship.

If your desire is to please God then you must date purely on Christian principles. Christian Dating would teach you the most honourable way to handle your relationship with the opposite sex.

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Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

2009-10-27T11:29:00.000-07:00

Joan and Freddie's story is a clear proof that there are some psychological triggers that really work no matter how shattered your relationship might be. Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back has proved to be very effective when you need to get your ex-girlfriend back. Hear their story as told by Freddie himself.

Joan has been going steady with Freddie for 8 months now. They love each other so much. Joan found a perfect match for her dream guy in. Tall, courteous, homely, caring and kind. They saw each other often and were looking forward to starting a family of theirs. They were hardly out of each other's sight save for their working hours. They were seen everywhere together. Things seemed to be working perfectly well until Freddie dropped in calling Joan or return her call. Work was the excuse he gave.

Then one day, she came visiting her heartthrob and caught him in the very act with another lady. Heart broken, she ran out of the house full of feelings of rejection, self doubt and great emotional pain. She felt terribly devastated and swore not to go back to Freddie. After a week, it was obvious he would not get a perfect replacement for her. Freddie felt guilty and repentant but could not figure out how to get Joan back. He made calls, sent flowers, sent friend to beg her but all his efforts failed.

He searched online and read many materials on getting an ex back. All he got from them is that there is hope, but none gave him a clear blueprint of how to get Joan back. Some advised him to go on with his life. He couldn't just get Joan off his mind for a second. So, he continued his search on how to get her back until he came across Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back. It gave him in clear words the exact steps to take. Though initially reluctant, when he finally decided to try the book, it did the magic. Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back taught him;

The secret reason why she really dumped him. He was shocked to know that it was not because she caught him with another girl.
4 super powerful techniques he used to make Joan extremely jealous. She was the one that actually crawled back to him after tried them out.
A step-by-step blueprint on what to do, say and how to act when he finally met with Joan. Which he did.
The key to stopping another breakup before it ever happens. This made him extremely happy.

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Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

2009-10-27T11:25:00.000-07:00

Fortune met Vicky and fell in love at a friend's party. They went out for almost a year and loved each other so much. Vicky found Fortune a great guy to be with. Loving, caring and lively; what else would a lady want in a man? They saw each other often and were looking forward to starting a family of theirs. They are hardly out of each others sight save for their working hours. They are seen everywhere together.
Things seemed to be working perfectly well until Fortune walked up to Vicky one day and told her he is no more interested in romantic relationship but they could still be friends. It came like a bomb on her.
Vicky felt so empty without Fortune and would like to haved him back, but it seemed his mind is made up. It is over with the relationship.She sought help from friends, books and online on how to get Fortune back but none worked. She really know she needs Fortune back and so he continued her search. She decided to let the whole story out and how she was feeling in an online forum where she hangs out. She got several suggestions from concerned members. Five of the people who responded suggested she read Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back. She got a copy and to her utmost surprise, it contains exactly what she is passing through and how to get around it. She applied the tips and two weeks later her dear Fortune was back to her promising never to leave her again.
What actually did she learn from Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back that brought Fortune back? She discovered;

The exact psychological "hot buttons" to push, and this got him crawling back to her.
Exactly how to keep him in love and addicted to her. It was surprisingly easier than she imagine.
The real reason he dumped her.
How to Keep him hopelessly in love with her, forever.
Exactly how to get him addicted to her.

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If Not For Me

2009-10-27T11:22:00.000-07:00

One day, Jim and Cecil were driving pass an auto mechanic workshop and Jim told her, “Dear, that is Dereck, your former boyfriend. He ended up a mechanic. You would have been a mechanic’s wife. Cecil smiled as she responded had I married Dereck, he would have been a millionaire like you are today. The answer caught Jim thinking and he realized that Cecil was more or less right. He would have hardly achieved much if not for the support of his dear wife Cecil.

They met 25 years ago while in high school. Then Cecil was going out with Dereck who hardly had much respect for her. One morning Jennifer, her friend and classmate whispered to her that Dereck went telling people that he got her into bed two days earlier. It was the talk of the whole school and everyone jeered at her while she passed except Jim who she once turned down. She broke up with Dereck who was hardly interested in her any more.

This paved way for Jim and they got married after high school. She is everything Jim wanted in a woman. “What a lucky man I am”, he would always tells himself. She is respectful, kind, hospital, submissive and tolerant. She shows Jim so much understanding even in issues Jim thought would be difficult to explain to her. She was a strong motivation force for him. Severally, she has saved Jim from situations that can make a man end up with depression or hypertension and stroke.

Her secret as she once told Jim was that after her failed relationship with Dereck while in high school, she decided to make herself a woman every man would adore. So, she started working on developing a set of character traits that would make her the envy of every man. Today, she is glad she achieved that. She is glad that her husband can boast of her and seek opportunities to commend her wherever he goes.

Jim has told her severally that he is afraid that he might not be able to bear losing her. In fact he once prayed they should die together, because she is too precious and good to be lost.

To learn more on how to develop yourself and become the woman every man would adore, get a copy of The Woman Man Adore, to learn many tips that would stand you out.

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Sandra's Story

2009-10-27T11:17:00.000-07:00

Everything was going well for our family before Will lost his job as a result of a financial that rocked his office. Gradually, I observed as I became resentful in my relationship with him. Though I work, our family would not be able to survive on my salary. Week after week, we were accumulating bills and this made me uneasy. It also compounded the problems our relationship was facing.

A communication gap developed and widened overnight that we could hardly discuss without ending it in a misunderstanding. I know I was the cause because I was too obsessed about Will not having a job and the financial responsibility of the home being on me. Even when he makes affectionate remarks, I see myself retorting, “If you love me, then get a job and take care of us”. This makes him feel very bad but being a quiet and reserved person, he would only respond, “I will get one in a short time.”

I tried to stop hitting Will hard with words but I couldn’t. I couldn’t help myself. I know I hurt him. Sometimes when alone, I would lock myself in the bedroom and weep for hours over our ailing marital relationship. I did my worst one evening when Will came home late and said he went to see an old school mate who works with an engineering consulting firm over a job opening. I didn’t know what came over me. I called him liar and spat on his face. He quietly walked away into the bathroom. I broke down on the floor and started crying.

The next morning when I got to work, I discussed the matter with Mary, my colleague who has been my friend for two years now. She advised me to see a psychologist right away. I visited one later that day. He gave some advice that made me feel good, but few days later I noticed that there was hardly any changed in my behaviour.

It did not come to me as a surprise after dinner one evening when Will asked for separation. I broke down in tears because I really love Will and will not want to lose home. After went to bed that night, I went to the sitting room and for the first time a long while, I knelt down and prayed to God to help save my marriage. Next day when I got to work, I saw a paper advert of Save My Marriage Today! on Mary’s table but she was not on seat. “This might help me", I whispered to myself. I hurried to my office, visited the site and rightaway I knew I have an answer to my problem. I downloaded it on my laptop. Will needs to see this.

Then I went over to Mary and discussed it with her. She suggested I should take permission and go home for the day so I can read it without work or anyone interfering. I took permission and went home. Will was at home when I got home and I discussed the package with him and surprisingly, he agreed to read it with me. Half way through, we were fighting back tears and by the time we finished, our marriage was healed. We agreed to make every necessary adjustment by implementing the prescription of the book Two weeks later, he got another job and since then, we have been living happily. It is six years now and there is no sign of cracks in our sweet relationship. Thanks to Save My Marriage Today!

I thought I knew Her

2009-10-27T11:06:00.000-07:00

I thought I knew Nancy enough before I proposed her. But our several our several marital problems prove how wrong I was. How can I be having serious misunderstanding and heated arguments with her? It scarcely happened during our six months dating. What actually did I miss out that that could be responsible for the marital problems? Hear my story:

We met at a friend’s birthday party and right away I felt a strong attraction for her. So, I told her and asked her out for dinner the next evening. We fell in love. It became our tradition to have dinner every evening except when I am out of town of have some other serious engagement. Six months later, we got married. During the six months we dated, I took time to observe her and I thought she was perfect for me. Courteous, gentle and quite caring. What else would I need in a woman?

Barely a month after the wedding, I started doubting my decision to marry her. I could not believe she was the same person I date for six months. She was not as organized as I would like her to be. It does not matter to her where she dumps her clothes; the settee, bed or floor even when the wardrobe is begging to be used. She usually burns her pancakes and does not care whether her clothes are dirty or not. These of course irritate me. How did I fail to observe all these for six months? Was I blinded by love or did she cover up her flaws? She doe not seem willing to change. Each time I complain, she would retort, “That is me, who do you want me to change to?”

This frustrated me so much and I had to ask for divorce. While online, I stumbled on Save My Marriage Today!. After reading through its preview, I concluded that it has what I want. It helped my almost collapsed marriage. From it, Nancy and I learnt how to;

Blend our individual differences.
Manage and resolve our conflicts.
Communicate effectively.
Sustain our love for each other.
Effectively manage our home, etc.

I would save a big thanks to Save My Marriage Today!